Addiction wreaks havoc on more than just the individual using substances. There’s no doubt the relative of someone abusing harmful chemicals is in a very difficult situation right now. For years, maybe even decades, they’ve watched their loved one sink deeper into addiction.

It takes a toll on families. It took a toll on ours. But things can get better. We’ve been helping families find their way forward for more than 20 years through our Family Matters Program here. Family recovery is possible. At Discovery Place, we provide support for families of addicts near Nashville, Tennessee. 

What You Need to Know About Your Loved One’s Addiction

Alcoholism and addiction can feel like impossible hurdles to overcome. Without outside help, it’s easy to get sucked into your loved one’s illness. You may even start to believe you caused it or that you can fix it. So let’s take a look at what you need to know about your loved one’s addiction. 

  1. You didn’t cause your loved one’s addiction. 

Stop blaming yourself. Addiction and alcoholism are diseases. And like other long-term, progressive illnesses, it must be treated or it becomes fatal.

  1. You can’t control your loved one’s behavior. 

If only you could wave a magic wand and make your loved one sober up, things would get better. Sadly, that isn’t how addiction works. And what’s even more frustrating is the more you try to control someone, the worse things can sometimes get. Rules and ultimatums don’t work in the face of this powerful disease.

  1. You can’t want recovery more than they want it for themselves. 

It hurts to watch someone you love continue to harm themselves when the answer seems so obvious. You might be willing to do anything to get your loved one to stop using or drinking. But the truth is, until they’re willing to do the same or seek rehab, you’re fighting an uphill battle that you’ll lose.

  1. There’s no quick fix or magic cure-all for addiction.

Your loved one probably didn’t become addicted overnight. Addiction is a disease that affects the body, mind and spirit. Recovery is slow and steady work. But the great news is, once someone grabs a hold of recovery, change is immediate. Day by day, you’ll be able to watch the person you once knew come back to life.

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The Effects of Addiction on Families

Here’s a myth we hear from families all the time, “If my loved one can get sober, then we’ll be OK.” The truth is–it’s not that simple. Addiction is a family disease.

That means yes, the person addicted to drugs and alcohol is sick, but so is the family. That can be hard to hear and even harder to believe. But years of being in a close relationship to an alcoholic or addict means relatives have paid a heavy price, too. 

The effects of addiction on families are impossible to measure. There’s no part of someone’s life that’s unaffected. In fact, one’s health (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual), job, money, friends and family, hobbies, and every other area of their life is impacted. In many ways, as a person’s loved one’s life comes to a screeching halt because of addiction, and so does everyone else’s in the family. 

Whether a loved one finds recovery or not, the family’s life can change for the better. Our compassionate Family Maters Program team at Discovery Place loves nothing more than watching a family come back together. However, it is important to remember that this doesn’t happen in every case. Someone doesn’t have to follow their loved one any deeper into their addiction. There is a healthy life waiting for someone when they find support for families of addicts in Nashville.

How Your Help Can Hurt Your Loved One

You didn’t cause your loved one’s addiction. However, there are things you might be doing that enables him/her to stay sick. Enabling is “helping” that does more harm than good. 

Ask any of our parents, partners, siblings, you name it, and they’ll give you a long list of the ways they enabled us. Our loved ones will also tell you they wish someone had told them to quit enabling us sooner. 

Does any of this sound familiar?

  • Paying your loved one’s rent (or any other bills), especially when they don’t have a job and could be working
  • “Loaning” them $20 here or $50 there
  • Letting them move back home again or live with you rent-free
  • Buying them another cell phone after they’ve lost it for the tenth time
  • Making excuses to your family and friends why they nodded out at dinner, missed their niece’s birthday party, forgot to get anyone gifts for Christmas
  • Bailed them out of jail or paid for legal support
  • Funded multiple trips to drug and alcohol treatment centers

Been there, done that. We could add a thousand more ways we convinced our families to help us when they should have been saying, “No.” At Discovery Place in Tennessee, we understand that family roles in addiction are complicated and difficult to sort out. It’s so painful to see your loved one destroying their life.

Of course you want to help your addicted loved one, but that’s where you have to trust the process. Helping an addicted loved one that has no intention of ever stopping their destructive behavior is actually propelling their addiction. Every time you help them out of another scrape, you’re actually making it harder for them to experience the consequences they need to hit rock bottom. This rock bottom can ultimately push them into recovery.

The Role of Families in Recovery

The role of the family in addiction recovery is an important one. When an addict has the support of their family members, several benefits emerge. For one, not only is the likelihood of a successful recovery increased, the mental adjustment to addiction-free living is made easier. Discovery Place supports families of addicts around Nashville by educating and guiding them in their journey toward wellness.

Substance abuse has long been known to have such lasting negative effects on a family. Additionally, certain substance use disorders have come to be known as “family diseases.” In adjusting to a family member’s addictive behaviors, each family member develops their own coping mechanisms. For example, these can range from the relatively benign, such as ignoring the problem and hoping it will go away. It can also include the more dangerous, like enabling that person to continue abusing substances.

In short, family members need to engage in recovery work, too. They must come together to establish a fresh family dynamic, and learn how to support the family member in active recovery. Discovery Place helps each member of the family get involved in the recovery process. We also offer family members the chance to participate in support group sessions and individual counseling.

Some families are interested only in fixing the issues at hand, while others believe the benefits of family therapy are so great that they want to continue. For those families looking for more help in their recovery journey, it is recommended that family therapy be a long-term treatment. Even when the addiction feels “under control,” it is important that the whole family feels supported and healthy.

When to Help the Addict or Alcoholic in Your Life

There is no instruction manual for when and how to help the addict or alcoholic in your life. Substance abuse is complicated, and we strongly recommend working with a professional to help guide your decision making. Remember, when it comes to helping an addict that you love, your perspective is compromised.

Here are some general guidelines of when to support your addicted loved one:

  • If you ask them if they want help for their addiction, and they say yes
  • They come to you asking for help
  • Their life is in immediate danger, and in that case, you should call 911

Support and recovery looks different for each family. For some families, recovery might mean emotional support, some financial resources, a ride to treatment, or just a hug and an encouraging word. For other families, healthy support looks like firm boundaries with no communication at all. This can occur until their loved one has taken some positive steps toward recovery.

We can help you walk through what’s appropriate for your situation with our Family Matters Program in the Nashville, Tennessee area. It’s always a good idea to run your plan by someone who isn’t emotionally invested in the outcome.

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Additional Support for Families of Addicts in Nashville, TN

Whatever you do to help your addicted loved one, remember you don’t have to do it alone. And you shouldn’t. You and your family deserve to experience your own opportunity to recover from your loved one’s addiction. 

While your loved one is at Discovery Place, he will be totally immersed in recovery. Whether your loved one attends our program for 30 days, 60 days, three months, or up to a year, you now have time to catch your breath. Additionally, you can devote energy to your own wellbeing, and focus more on you. Family roles in addiction can change, and it can start with you.

Discovery Place also offers support for families through our staff, guides and special guests. We encourage all of those impacted by the effects of addiction to attend the workshops and meetings we host. This is your time to ask questions, connect with others, and gather tools to build or strengthen your own peace of mind. Family recovery is hard work, but together we promise to help you and your family establish a firm foundation to live a happy, healthy life.

Discovery Place also encourages all of our families to check out all the support for families of addicts and alcoholics in your local community and online. Here are a few we recommend:

  • Al-Anon Family Groups. Al-Anon is a mutual support program for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. They’re a great resource for those whose loved ones identify as addicts too. It’s free and meetings are held everywhere, including online. Attend at least six different meetings before you decide whether or not it’s for you. You can reach Al-Anon at 1.888.4AL.ANON (1.888.425.2666) or at
  • Alateen. Part of Al-Anon Family Groups, Alateen is for teenagers affected by someone else’s drinking.
  • Alcoholics Anonymous. While your loved one is at Discovery Place, he will be introduced to the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). He can also attend AA meetings. As well, in your own community and online, AA meetings are taking place all the time. To get a better understanding of what your loved one is learning, try attending a few open AA meetings. Or read some AA literature, most of which is available for free.

In addition to the support groups listed above, we have also created guides to help you and your loved one navigate the addiction process:

We have also found most local communities offer qualified and professional family therapists, counselors and social workers. Don’t be afraid to take advantage of the growing list of tele-health resources, ask a trusted family member or friend for a recommendation. Lean on the support of experts who are always available to help you navigate your loved one’s addiction.

Start Our Family Matters Program in Nashville, TN

You may have questions about Discovery Place and whether it’s the right place for your loved one. Our dedicated team of professionals are here to help. Our sole mission at Discovery Place is to give men the tools they need to live sober, fulfilling lives. Our admissions staff has thousands of hours of experience to support families of addicts in the Nashville, Tennessee area. Whether your loved one comes to Discovery Place or not, we’re here for you and your family.

Give us a call at 800.725.0922. You’ll talk to Brett, Travis or Wilson—Discovery Place alumni, in recovery, ready to help.


  • Discovery Place was the answer for my son. He did the 90 day and then the step down program and sober living. We give this organization 10 stars. They met my son where he was …emotionally, mentally, physically. They helped him put his life back on track. Discovery Place employees care about their guests. If your son, brother, nephew, grandson or husband needs excellent supportive care THIS is indeed the facility.

    Kim Morton
    Alumni Parent
  • I have remained sober and it is because of DP. DP is the best place there is, hands down. I keep everyone there in my prayers, and I encourage everyone there to take what they are practicing and do it in their lives, after.

    Roy Mantelli
  • Over the past year, I’ve been putting into actin what Discovery Place taught me, and I have experienced a complete perspective change of the world, and the people in it. I get to be a man of service and love today, and for that I am grateful to Discovery Place.

    Matt Kassay
  • Discovery Place means the world to me. They showed me the tools that I’ve tried to use everyday in my life to think less often of myself, and more frequently of others. I am learning to lend a hand when I am able and to have a honest and humble relationship with God and the people around me. Not only am I clean and sober, but also I am happy and fulfilled.

    Tommy Parker
  • Discovery Place and the men who work there made recovery attractive, and more importantly, fun. There is strength in the struggle. I am forever grateful for my time at Discovery Place.

    Creed McClellan
  • When I got to Discovery Place my whole life was in shambles, but I didn’t know it. I spent 6 months in their programs, participating in all three phases, and was met with kindness and love all along the way. It is unbelievable to me, where I am now relative to where I was when I arrived at DP.

    Lance Duke
  • I can never say enough good things about Discovery Place and the people who work there. Before checking in to DP, I was out of options and out of answers. Fortunately, Discovery Place has a solution. Taking suggestions from the staff at DP saved my life, and as a result, I’m now more content and hopeful about life. I’m grateful for Discovery Place showing me how to live a healthy life so that I can become a better man and help the next guy.”

    Tyler Buckingham

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